True power lies in releasing resistance

Most rarely align with their true power, because it seems illogical to them that there is power in relaxation, in letting go, or in love or joy or bliss. Most people do not understand that their true power lies in releasing resistance—which is the only obstacle to their true power. Most people do not expect their path to great abundance to be one of ease and of joy. They have been taught that struggle and hardship and sacrifice are requirements that must be met before the reward of great abundance can be realized. Most do not understand that the very struggle they deliberately involve themselves in, in their quest for success and advantage, actually works against them. There are so many things that you have been taught to believe that are counter to the powerful Laws of the Universe that it is difficult for you to think your way out. And that is the reason that we present this path of much less resistance. We want you to breathe rather than try, to relax rather than offer effort, to smile rather than struggle, to be rather than do. For your true power is experienced only from inside the Vortex. --- Abraham

A Quality Life Demands Quality Questions- Dr. John F. Demartini

The quality of your life is based partly upon the quality of the questions you ask yourself daily. If you are not inspired about your life or if you are not living the life you truly dream of, it just may be because you are not asking yourself the highest quality questions. The moment you do is the moment your life begins to change. Most people who struggle through life ask themselves such uninspiring questions that their lives become exactly that, uninspiring. Asking yourself low-quality questions leads to a low quality life, but asking yourself high quality questions is one of the keys to living the more self-actualized life you dream of and deserve. Below are seven high quality questions you could begin asking yourself daily. I have been asking myself these seven questions for many years and have been able to fulfill many of my dreams through this method. Many of my friends and students have also done the same. These questions have already been demonstrated to increase the quality of many people's lives around the world. Let's now take a look at these seven high quality questions. 1. What would I absolutely love to do in life? This question helps bring clearly into your conscious mind one of your heartfelt and meaningful dreams or objectives. 2. How do I become handsomely or beautifully paid to do it? This question helps you awaken your creativity and helps you reward yourself in return. It helps make your vocation your avocation. Why not get financially rewarded for doing whatever you love? 3. What are the seven highest priority actions steps I could complete today that would enable me to do it? This question helps you see how possible it is to accomplish this or any other meaningful dream or objective. It helps you organize your actions. 4. What obstacles might I run into and how do I solve them in advance? This question helps you plan more effectively and prepares you for the challenges you might face in advance. It enables you to act more than react along your journey. 5. What worked and what didn't work today? This question helps you refine your actions and keep them on priority. All great endeavors require such feedback. 6. How do I do what I would love more effectively and efficiently? This question helps you consistently think of more effective and efficient ways of accomplishing your meaningful dream or objective. 7. How did whatever I experienced today - whether positive or negative, serve me? This question helps you realize that all great endeavors come with both supportive and challenging consequences both of which act as feedback mechanisms to assist you along your accomplishment journey. Yes, there is a bit of thinking involved in asking and answering quality questions, but with a little effort and refinement you can certainly accomplish a great number of objectives and fulfill a greater number of dreams. Don't you deserve to live your dreams? Begin asking yourself the same quality questions and see what answers they lead you to. Be as specific and concise as you can. Watch how your creativity begins to soar. The quality of your life is based partly upon the quality of the questions you ask yourself daily and the quality and quantity of actions you take for yourself daily. Begin to ask higher quality questions and begin to act on your dreams today.

A Message Of Hope - Little Grandmother

Bruce Lipton: being a cell of Humanity & Letting go of the illusion of separation

The Chemistry of Attraction

Dr Demartini

What's really going on when you're attracted to someone? The infatuation phase is when you see only one side of a person: the positive traits, the potential for a happily ever after. You don't even notice that her feet stink or that he scratches his butt. No, she's Cinderella and he's Prince Charming-for now.
 
Your body chemistry only heightens the whole lopsided process, giving you regular doses of dopamine (a hormone that mimics the effects of cocaine), resulting in phenomena such as energy boosts, appetite suppression, heart palpitations, accelerated breathing, hyperactivity, and insomnia. Romantics say, "I love him/her so much that I can't eat, sleep, or think straight." That's the dope talking. And dopamine triggers testosterone, which means sex drive goes up, and soon enough, you're making love like bunnies.
 
There's no doubt that sex drive is partly chemical and hormonal, but it's also psychological and energetic. Partners in a relationship become more susceptible to outside interests when they stop honoring one another's values. It's as if a periscope goes up, out of the relationship, to scan the horizon. And males, because of their naturally higher levels of testosterone, scope things out more often than women.
 
This isn't to say that men are significantly more likely to stray; I think it may actually be nearly even-steven (or even-stephanie). It's just that guys probably consider their options more often. Statistics on the rates of infidelity are suspect because there's no way to gauge the honesty of survey respondents. Some people might deny activity they're ashamed of or brag about something that never happened. Yet here's something to consider: The Associated Press reported in the late 1990s that 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past, 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men didn't know about their spouse's extramarital activity, and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by cheating.
 
Interestingly enough, a man's testosterone levels go up or down, inversely proportionate with the attachment he feels in his relationship. In other words, the more attached he feels to his partner or family, the lower his testosterone levels. Right after orgasm, a man experiences a surge of vasopressin, which is thought to depress the hormone. Also, a new father's testosterone declines immediately when his child is born. In fact, it drops when he simply holds a baby, just from having parental, caretaking feelings.
 
Does this mean that the more attached a man is to his partner and family, the lower his testosterone levels are and, therefore, the lower his sex drive is, so he's less likely to put up his periscope? Bingo! And what creates this bond? The more he feels his values are being honored and fulfilled in the relationship, the less he feels the need to look elsewhere; both his psychology and his chemistry support this.
 
What creates a similar effect in women? Having her own ideals respected, of course, plus sexual fulfillment (specifically orgasm) and nursing a child, both of which trigger release of a hormone called oxytocin, the female counterpart to vasopressin.
 
But don't confuse attachment and its hormones with some kind of magic bullet for fidelity. Where polyamory (loving more than one) isn't restricted by cultural barriers, or in couples who choose not to comply with cultural norms, it's more freely expressed. Although "open" relationships have their own challenges, they're not inherently "worse" (or "better") than "closed" ones. Human connections can take myriad forms, all of which are valid and potentially viable.

The Job or the Money? The $5 Million Dollar Interview.

When someone interviews for a job with me, they’re in for an unusual conversation. Once we’ve established that the appropriate skills, talent, and drive are all present in the individual applying for the position, I whip out my bankbook, pen a check for $5 million, and inquire, “Exactly how do I spell your name?”
As soon as I’ve written the person’s name in the “Pay to the Order of” line, I ask, “If I gave you this check for $5 million right now, what would you do with your life?” The answer provides tremendous insight into what this person’s true vocation is—and whether that fits in with the job I have to offer.
In fact, if the answer doesn’t resemble a description of the position for which they’re applying, I let them know that I won’t be hiring them and prepare to interview the next candidate. Their truthful response has told me they’re not a match for our company, and I need to look for other candidates who love what they do so much that $5 million fuels their inspiration to fulfill the career position I’m offering instead of taking them off in a completely different direction.
Once when interviewing a man in his 50s who had a warm smile and a stylish briefcase, I wrote the check and asked him my stock question. We’d been having a favorable interview so far: He’d spoken enthusiastically about what he wanted to do for and with the company, and up to this point, it seemed that he’d be a good match for the managerial position. But then his eyes got a faraway look, and he started talking about how much he loved woodworking: the smell of fresh-cut pine, cedar, cherry, and walnut; the feel of finely sanded lumber; the transformation of rough wood into precise shapes; and the challenge of crafting beautiful details.
While he was in this reverie, I gently interrupted him. “You obviously love woodworking. Why don’t you pursue that?”
He probably thought I was kidding because he laughed.
“Seriously,” I said. “If you’re such a great manager and would love to be a woodworker and furniture maker, yet you haven’t figured out how to manage your own life so that you can do what you love, why would I expect you to successfully manage my company?”
He began to waver when he realized I wasn’t joking. “Well, John,” he said as he tried to convince me, “I’d really love to come work for you….”
I didn’t hire him, and he left my office with something to think about.
A few weeks later, he returned to my office offering his personal thanks and letting me know that he’d begun to pursue his dream. After our conversation, he’d realized that he possessed the skills to run his own company yet hadn’t followed through on it because owning a furniture-making shop hadn’t fit into his idea of a “respectable career.” He was over that now, though, and was feeling incredibly grateful for the push I’d given him. He sent several elegant wood pieces to my office to express his appreciation.
When hiring, you’re not doing anyone a disservice by passing over uninspired employees. And as an employee, you’re not doing anyone any favors by clinging to a job or company that doesn’t help awaken you to your own magnificence. Instead, whether employer or employee, seek to match work and worker. The motto behind this is: Love what you do and do what you love.

Dr. John Demartini is a human behavioural specialist, educator, author and founder of the Demartini Institute, a private research and education institute.Visit www.DrDemartini.com.

Can Money Buy Happiness?

 An OSHO Quote

Posted on August 28, 2011 by

Can Money Buy Happiness? by Osho

Don’t be too much concerned about money, because that is the greatest distraction against happiness. And the irony of ironies is that people think they will be happy when they have money. Money has nothing to do with happiness. If you are happy and you have money, you can use it for happiness.

If you are unhappy and you have money, you will use that money for more unhappiness. Because money is simply a neutral force.

I am not against money – remember. Don’t misinterpret me: I am not against money. I am not against anything. Money is a means. If you are happy and you have money, you will become more happy. If you are unhappy and you have money, you will become more unhappy because what will you do with your money? Your money will enhance your pattern, whatsoever it is. If you are miserable and you have power, what will you do with your power? You will poison yourself more with your power, you will become more miserable.

But people go on looking for money as if money is going to bring happiness. People go on looking for respectability as if respectability is going to give you happiness. People are ready, at any moment, to change their pattern, to change their ways, if more money is available somewhere else.

Once the money is there, then suddenly you are no longer yourself; you are ready to change.

This is the way of the worldly man. I don’t call those people worldly who have money, I call those people worldly who change their motives for money. I don’t call those people unworldly who have no money – they may be simply poor. I call those people unworldly who don’t change their motives for money. Just being poor is not equivalent to being spiritual; and just being rich is not equivalent to being a materialist. The materialistic pattern of life is one in which money predominates over everything.

The non-materialistic life is one in which money is just a means: happiness predominates, joy predominates, your own individuality predominates. You know who you are and where you are going, and you are not distracted.

Then suddenly you will see your life has a meditative quality to it.

But somewhere along the way everybody has missed. You were brought up by people who have not arrived. You were brought up by people who were unhealthy themselves. Feel sorry for them. I am not saying be against them; I am not condemning them – remember. Just feel compassion for them. The parents, the schoolteachers, the university professors, the so-called leaders of society – they were unhappy people. They have created an unhappy pattern in you.

And you have not yet taken charge of your life. They were living under a misinterpretation – that was their misery. And you are also living under a misinterpretation.

OSHO – A Sudden Clash Of Thunder #7

The greatest gift you can give anyone is to be happy

Abraham-Hicks™

The greatest gift you can give anyone is to be happy. And we will take that further. The greatest gift you can give to any partner, past, present or future is to be so connected with who you truly are that they are irrelevant to your connection. And when they are irrelevant to your connection, then you are going to have a really good time together.

How to Keep Your Partner Interested

By Dr John Demartini

I was asked recently whether there was an explanation why husbands or wives stray. My answer was simple: Relationships may start out romantic, but they also remain utilitarian. Individuals are not loyal to other individuals, they are loyal only to the fulfillment of their own highest values (what is most important to them).

Everyone has a hierarchy of values – priorities –which determines how they perceive, make decisions and act upon the world. These values influence what they like or dislike, are attracted to or repelled by, what opens them up or shuts them down.

These values might be concentrated in a particular part of a person’s life or spread from their mental aspects to vocational, financial, family, social, physical and spiritual.

At the beginning of a relationship, a couple would normally balance each other’s unique values out. So if a woman values security, she will value a mate that brings business, leadership and financial empowerment into her life. If a man values beauty and influence then he would value a mate that brings physical and social power to the relationship.

But as the relationship matures, if one spouse begins sacrificing their highest values for their more empowered partner’s, there will be an imbalance. Where this becomes extreme, the relationship becomes stressed and vulnerable. Whoever has the most power (over-dog) often wants more freedom and may seek out alternative options. Whoever has the least power (under-dog) often wants more constraint and fidelity. Marriage and monogamy to them is generally a higher priority. 

Someone who is empowered in most or all areas of their life is successful in their career, will have wealth, will be physically attractive; educated and articulate and generally considered a together person.

On the other hand, the spouse who has become disempowered, who abandoned their own career and financial independence, gave up on their dreams to opt for a dependency role when married; is going to experience an extremely polarized imbalance of empowerment in the marriage.  The ‘over-dog’ will start searching for a new partner or partners to balance out his or her own power levels.  That’s when it is wise for the ‘under-dog’ to stop injecting their partner’s values into their life and look into the mirror.

They need to reclaim a feeling of self-worth and re-magnetize their mate. When they value themselves; so do others. When they offer what is perceived as value, their mates stick around. 

When a couple is more equally empowered, maintains and communicates fair exchange and has their values met equally at home, they will be less likely to seek others out of the home. Couples with a balance of overall powers keep each other in homeostatic check. This results in a more stable relationship. They experience only mild oscillations in their relationship dynamic which are not enough to motivate what society calls infidelity. As long as they are getting their values met they are less likely to stray.

So when people stray, it’s not because they are villains. It is because they are individuals with unfulfilled values seeking alternative options to fulfill them. The spouses or partners of these individuals are also not victims of some evil crime. They are simply receiving a wake-up call on how relationships work and how to empower themselves so they can offer greater value.  If a break up does occur this is not the end of the world. It is simply time to look at what the many upsides are and how to start empowering so as to offer more value.
 

The Path For Fulfillment

Dr John Demartini

Many people live with Monday morning blues, Wednesday hump days, Thank God it’s Fridays, and weak “friggin” ends. This is not the path of fulfilment or the life of inspiration. When you are grateful for your career, you love what you do, you are inspired by the vision of your company and you are enthusiastically working, your career opportunities soar and the company you work for grows